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It’s not you, it’s me…

Maybe it came out of nowhere and hit you like a ton of bricks, or, perhaps, you feared the day would come but tried to avoid the conversation. The words that made you feel that your heart had stopped beating:

“We need to talk,”

“It’s not you, it’s me,”

“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

or “I just need space…”

You may have felt you had found The One, but with the announcement of a few words the future you planned together is now gone. There’s a part of you that feels lost, your heart is broken and there’s a huge hole in your life.

Breakups are usually one-sided

One person walks off into the horizon while the other is left confused, angry, and sad.

At this point, pretty much anything feels better than the pain you are feeling. When you’re heartbroken, the hurt, loneliness and vulnerability are acute.

So, go ahead and block the person from all of your social media, delete them from your contacts on your mobile phone, and rip up all of those heartfelt letters where you still reigned supreme.

There are many people who, instead, become obsessed with their ex and do things that cause further pain to themselves and don’t help in the very important healing process. They include:

  1. Finding any desperate excuse to contact them—picking up something they left at their ex’s house or returning an item of theirs.

  2. Thinking of any reason—or none at all—to call or text the person.

  3. Driving past their house or work.

  4. Running into the ex’s best friend to casually bring up their name and find out what they’re up to.

Mending a broken heart is hard, and there is no fool-proof way to stop your heart from hurting. Unfortunately, you can’t go under, over or around the pain—you have to go through it.

How do you get beyond the pain?

If the sadness of the breakup is overwhelming, and you find that you are unable to complete your daily tasks, are sleeping too much, avoiding friends and family and generally having a hard time functioning, you may want to invest in the Fearlessly Moving Forwards Method.

With the Fearlessly Moving Forwards Method, I will help you cope and provide tools and techniques to help you get through this hard time, help you understand how important and valuable you are, help you understand what you bring to a partnership, support you to heal, let go, and move on, help you regain your self-esteem and confidence in yourself.

This will patch up your heart so you can move on to become a stronger and more confident, vibrant and sexy woman! We will explore, expose and transform your deepest heartbreak. Through a process of forgiveness of yourself and others, you will dissolve judgement, guilt, grievance, pain, and self-attack, while bringing your heart back into wholeness. What an amazing feeling!

I can help you to understand your true feelings and how to overcome the fears, pain and possible depression you are undergoing. In addition, you can join in the weekly Q & As to help answer the questions that you were afraid to ask elsewhere.

There is no magic pill or checklist that will make everything better after a breakup. It usually takes some time. Being honest with yourself and others about your emotions and feelings during this time is important.

I truly know how you feel after my 34 year old relationship broke up, leaving me floundering, which is why I created the Fearlessly Moving Forwards Method, with positive ways you can make the best of an unexpected and painful situation.  If I had a heartbreak coach or an online program like this to guide me when I was going through my heartbreak, It wouldn’t have taken me years to get over someone who wasn’t good for me. Absolutely NO ONE is worth that much time to get over. NO ONE is worth that amount of hopelessness, tears, and sleepness nights. I want to make sure that you won’t ever have to worry about taking years to let go of that much pain. I want to make sure that your pain ends this year!

It may feel like your world has shattered, but you now have the chance to create a new reality, a new you and find a new love when the time is right. The world is filled with adventure and opportunity, and this is just the next step in the journey.

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