Maybe it came out of nowhere and hit you like a ton of bricks, or, perhaps, you feared the day would come but tried to avoid the conversation. The words that made you feel that your heart had stopped beating: “We need to talk,” “It’s not you, it’s me,” “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” or “I just need space…” You may have felt you had found The One, but with the announcement of a few words the future you planned together is now gone. There’s a part of you that feels

As February has ended and March begins, it’s time for closure.  We can have closure after we accept someone’s choices, disentangle our expectations and desires from their potential and abilities and refuse to engage in wishful thinking.  Because that is what we do when we think that if we tried harder, did more, pushed harder, went an extra 100 miles, we could have changed the situation.  And wishful thinking keeps us stuck in healing cycles that do not serve us! So I’m havin