What you CAN DO to Attract the Man You Truly Want

Updated: Oct 18


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Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t


Our focus acts as both a magnifying glass and a magnet. In other words, whatever we put our attention on, expands in our life. Whatever we talk about, we see more of. Whatever we think about, we experience more of. How is this so?


Because what we focus on directs our brains to seek out and produce more of the same. Focus acts as reinforcement.


The Law of Attraction responds to thoughts of what we do not want in the same way it responds to thoughts of what we do want.


If we think of not wanting something … why does the universe respond by manifesting this experience that we do not want?


Because it doesn't know what is real and what is not real.



What is the Law of Attraction?


The law of attraction is actually pretty simple. Its premise is that like attracts like.


The more you focus on a particular thing, the more that you bring that very thing into your life.


You may have noticed subtle ways that the law of attraction already shows up in your life, or you may have written off each individual circumstance as a coincidence




I have spoken to many women in the Fearlessly Moving Forwards Facebook group who simultaneously desire a strong, conscientious man while complaining that all men are sex-obsessed, penny pinchers. They say how they’re no longer going to put any effort into attracting a man — almost every single day. That’s a lot of time spent thinking about how not to attract a man.


Relationships show us the areas that still need to heal. And we ALL still need to heal.


So, if you’re looking to attract a soulmate, here are some tips to help prevent another disappointment and bring a lot more joy and ease to the process.



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Be Honest With Yourself


It’s okay to want a significant other. Yes, if you have done the healing of letting go of the past and personal development work, you are already whole, and you surely don’t need anyone to complete you. Yet, our bodies, minds, and spirits are wired to connect. Accept that you desire love in your life, and you’ll be more likely to invite it in. Even if you don’t need a partner to survive, you can enjoy one. They can enhance your life. And that’s what this life is all about, experiencing the full range of emotions and having people around to share them with.


Be Grateful


You will only attract the things, and in this case, people, for whom you have a genuine fondness and gratitude. If you think most men are arrogant and just want a housekeeper, you’re not going to be able to attract a kind, funny, confident, generous man. Never mind attract, you won’t be able even to see him. This is a Growth Mindset, my dear ladies. We can only achieve what we believe is possible. There are so many great catches when we expect them to be there.


Now, this might mean that you have to do some work to heal your relationship with men.


Here’s a quick exercise. Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. On the left, write all of the positive qualities of men you can think of. On the right, list the negative attributes. These are your beliefs — or let’s say your glass ceiling. This is the type of man you will invite into your life. It might be somewhat limiting.


Consider each man as a unique and unchartered territory that you know nothing about but for whom you are excited and curious to learn more. Rather than carrying beliefs from past experiences, consider each man a new destination to explore. It might not be the perfect territory for you — and that’s okay. Most won’t be. But approach him with genuine curiosity and enthusiasm. You might just be surprised.



Love Yourself