Updated: Feb 18, 2021
Visualisation, affirmations, changing your beliefs that are negative... these are all wonderful tools to help you manifest abundance in your life. However, do you do all of these things and more, yet the thing you wish to happen, doesn't?
One element that many people don't focus on enough, is how to identify and remove specific blocks that keep you - unconsciously - from manifesting and achieving what you "say" you wish for.
You may be thinking ""What do you mean by "blocks"
And what do you mean, that I don't really wish for what I say I want?
Of course, I would love to be with my soulmate. How can you say I don't really wish for that person to come into my life?
So, let me simply explain that blocks are things that we do, consciously or unconsciously, to sabotage our goals, even though we not even know we are doing it!
For example, you may want a soulmate, but your payoff deep down inside may be that you need to open your heart and be vulnerable. So, you'll pass up opportunities that come your way with a variety of excuses and wonder why you don't have a loving, fulfilling relationship.
Your payoff is avoidance.
Whatever is most important to you when you think about being in a loving, fulfilling relationship, there is also something that is holding you back. Maybe it is something specific, maybe it is just a fuzzy uncomfortable feeling.
Maybe it's one of many ways that self-doubt manifests itself, in the form of fear. Maybe somebody told you that you are not lovable?
Do you have trouble dealing with past failures, the opportunities squandered; the love lost, the promises to yourself broken? No matter how hard you try to convince yourself you have changed and you really are going to succeed this time, there is always that history of past failure. You are doing your best to push it to the back of your mind, but it bubbles up and you are still aware of it. In fact, it's holding you back from being in a successful relationship.
You are not unique in this. Everyone has a history of making mistakes and exercising poor judgement. These can be baggage weighing us down if we do not get past them, or they can be building blocks for our eventual success. You can take the view you are a failure or you can decide you tried certain things and they did not work out.
If you do not do anything you will not make mistakes, but neither will you make any progress. Have you noticed how many successful people have a history of failing a number of times before they succeeded. In fact many will tell you they failed more than they succeeded? They they will usually tell you they would not have succeeded without the lessons learned from the failures. In other words, their success was built on failures. They had to make plenty of mistakes before they learnt what they had to do to succeed.
Madonna first tied the knot with Sean Penn in 1985 when the two of them were both relatively new on the Hollywood scene. She even dedicated her third album, True Blue, to Penn the year that followed. Their romance only lasted about four years before the singer filed for divorce in 1989. More than a decade passed before Madonna said "I do" to English filmmaker, Guy Ritchie. Their marriage lasted eight years before Madonna filed for divorce in 2008.
Kim Kardashian West eloped with music producer Damon Thomas in 2000 and they divorced in 2004. Her second marriage was to basketball player Kris Humphries in 2011, and after just 72 days of marriage she filed for divorce. Kim went on to marry her third husband, Kanye West in 2014 and they have a daughter and son together.
Some people have strength of purpose or a vision of success that keeps them persisting until they finally succeed. They are the standout individuals who seem to succeed against all odds. But not everyone has that. Many give up because they are pulled down by their history and they can't get past the mental blocks this has created.
It is only natural not to want to repeat painful mistakes. Avoiding this is a form of protection even self-preservation. Unfortunately, this means settling for something less - sometimes a lot less than should be, simply because we have not been able to remove the mental roadblocks that have been holding us back.
If every thought that you have is negative or limiting, then these thoughts will manifest in your life in a negative way. The result is you will become a pessimist or perhaps a defeatist. Conversely, if you plant good thoughts through the power of using positive language then from these seeds, strong plants will grow.
The path to follow to gain a better understanding of how important it is to think wisely can be seen below:
Thoughts affect our emotions, which in turn affect our actions, which then determine our behaviour and our results.
It follows that if you have consistent positive thoughts, you will have positive emotions, which in turn will result in positive decisions and positive actions. Ultimately, this will lead to long term positive behaviour and results in life that are fruitful In a very real way, you become the designer of your life.
The key, therefore is to master your thoughts and your emotional state.
When you change your thoughts from negative to positive, your emotions in turn will change and so on through the continuum.
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Founder of Fearlessly Moving Forwards Method