Firstly, let's get absolutely clear about what causes stress
Here are a few...
Chronic illness or injury.
Emotional problems (depression, anxiety, anger, grief, guilt, low self-esteem)
Taking care of an elderly or sick family member.
Traumatic event, such as a relationship break-up, natural disaster, theft, rape, or violence against you or a loved one.
Pressure of work
Taking care of the house
Kids
Chores
Meetings
At the end of the day, energy is depleted and all anyone wants to do is crawl into bed and sleep.
I think we can all relate to times when we have felt like this.
That certainly isn’t the most optimal way to live. Stress is actually one of the most common ailments these days. With the lagging economy, failing relationships, lack of jobs, etc., chronic stress can latch onto you and before you know it, you’re living a miserably frustrating life.
So how does your body tell you that you're affected by stress...
Aches and pains.
Chest pain or a feeling like your heart is racing.
Exhaustion or trouble sleeping.
Headaches, dizziness or shaking.
High blood pressure.
Muscle tension or jaw clenching.
Stomach or digestive problems.
Trouble having sex.
So what can you do to relieve stress?
Everyone is talking about self-care. This is of utmost importance if you want to experience a life of connecting with the peace and joy that are within you.
Living In The Now
Researchers tell us that those who learn the art of mindfulness, or living in the now, tend to live with less stress and more happiness. They’ve learned to release much of the burden of life and welcome more ease and flow.
But what does it mean to “live in the now”?
What Is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is simply being mindful of the present moment. It’s being aware of your mind and body.
A great deal of research and studies have been done regarding the effects of mindfulness on stress levels, emotions, pain, and more. In fact, some hospitals are using mindfulness as a tool, along with other therapies for decreasing stress and pain.
When is the last time you just sat still in a quiet spot and let your mind rest? I don't teach about silencing the mind. I feel that thoughts are like clouds that need to be seen and allowed to breeze on by, revealing the blue sky that is always there, just like your mind. It is the thoughts that create ripples, like pebbles in a pond. Sitting quietly allows the ripples to become still.
Most people never take time to do this. Their minds are always running with hundreds of thoughts which I refer to as the monkey mind. I teach how to still the mind in the 5 day Meditation Challenge
Mindfulness will allow you to stop the incessant thoughts and enjoy some peace in the mind. After all, I think that is really what everyone wants.
How To Experience Mindfulness In Every Day Living
Being present takes practice. If we’re not consciously trying to live in the now, we are likely to be off thinking about the past or future.
Here are some helpful tips for experiencing mindfulness more consistently:
Find a quiet spot to sit or lie down. Take two or three deep breaths and as you exhale, relax your entire body. Solely focus on the inhale and exhale of your breath. Turn your attention to the present moment. Feel the chair or floor below you and hear whatever noises are occurring surrounding you.
As you focus on your breath, thoughts should start slowing down or stop. If a random thought enters your mind, simply witness it and then return your focus to your breathing.
Mindfully Melt Daily Stress Away
You might be tempted to think that this is a waste of time, but I assure you that it isn’t. If you will take time each day to be mindful like this, you’ll notice that you’re stress level will decrease and you’ll begin to feel more relaxed, peaceful, and happier. There are plenty of people who have taken up mindfulness and meditation that can attest to the wonderful changes that occur in their lives due to consistent practice.
Begin with just a few minutes per day and increase gradually over time. You can also learn to become more mindful throughout your day. Take a few minutes at work or while you’re stuck in traffic on the way home. Be present, observe, and offer gratitude for life as it happens in real time.
Go for a walk at lunchtime and observe the gorgeous creation that surrounds you. When you get home, be mindful as you clean the kitchen, do the washing up, fold laundry, shower, cook dinner, engage with the children, etc.
The more mindful you become, the more you will connect to your inner serenity and joy. It is not outside of you. It's inside and been hidden by layers of stress.
Re-connect With Peace And Joy
Begin your journey to more mindful living today. Take some time to hear the birds singing and really focus on your surroundings.
Get comfortable sitting quietly with yourself. Focus on your breath. It takes practice and dedication, so why not get started practicing the art of living in the now today?
Your journey toward more peace and joy involves mindfulness, so make a commitment to begin today.