I have created a Facebook Group ‘Fearlessly Moving Forwards’ for those separated, divorced or bereaved, to share life tools and tips to help rebuild your life.
Because I know what it feels like when a long term relationship ends and wish I’d known then, what I know now.
I am sharing strategies in this private Facebook Group to move on from grief, heartache and even resentment.
I always say to my clients “In order to figure out where you are going you have to first understand where you have been. It all starts at the beginning.”
After I knew my long term marriage was over I chose to do a deep dive with my healing and to understand what I needed to learn from one “failed” marriage. I went on a healing journey and understood so much! Looking at my relationships with my parents and my parents relationship and the dynamic I saw growing up.
I dissected it all to truly understand why this all happened and happened the way it did. What I learned is that your relationship issues are not relationship issues. They are childhood problems, past life problems or even ancestral problems, disguising themselves as relationship issues.
If you are going through a separation or divorce, here are some questions to ask yourself:-
What was the dynamic between your parents in their marriage?
How is your relationship with your mum?
How is your relationship with your dad?
Usually if you’re female you look at the father figure in your life and if you’re a male you look at the mother figure in your life.
What are the similarities/pattern in all your relationships?
There’s always something that connects them all.
Was your relationship based on what lives true in your heart or what you have been conditioned to want?
So many lives based on someone else’s narrative
For me in many aspects of my journey, the inner child has needed to be healed on many different levels. I think this rings true for many of us on this path, which is what I wrote about in my last blog.
Be kind to your inner child. they are still very much present in all that we do.
That’s why healing your inner child in one of the most important healing’s you can do for yourself and your future relationships.
Your inner child is the echo of the child you once were. We each have our own history and we have all been influenced by our environment, events and the significant people around us. Our inner child has stored those memories, and their impact upon us.
Stay tuned – ‘Fearlessly Moving Forwards’ program is launched this year which includes healing your inner child!
The shift from powerless to empowered is a gentle one, but lies in the way you experienced the end.
Please share this information to all you know in this situation, so they can join the group and begin their healing journey!