Getting Over A Relationship

Here are some tips for getting over a relationship:-


STEP #1: RECOGNISE WHAT WASN'T WORKING FOR YOU


Are you spending a lot of time thinking about all the ways you messed up in your relationship with your ex, but all the ways he was great?


Do you keep going over in your mind an argument, wondering if things would have been better if you said or did something different from the beginning with him, feeling guilty or bad that things didn't work out?


Do you daydream about all the ways he was special, and how you'll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did?


Romanticising or replaying the past is a pretty common thing many people do when they break up.




Big mistake.


Don't do this to yourself.


This is 100% sure to only make you feel MORE AWFUL, not to mention that it keeps you from focusing on what's most important to you right now.


And that is learning how to get what you want and how to have the kind of relationship you deserve in the FUTURE.


When you focus on your ex too much, and you spend your time "pining away" for a relationship, you miss out on a very important lesson.


You stop seeing all the ways that the relationship made life a ROLLER COASTER for you.


You don't realise all the ways he wasn't right for you or made you feel less than your true self.


You don't learn what it is your really want and need from a relationship in order to be fulfilled.


Let's face it, you were led down some very negative emotional paths by this person, weren't you?


So, instead of wearing 'rose tinted glasses' and thinking only of the "good times" and how much you miss them, consider all the things he did and said that made you feel insecure, anxious or frustrated - feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.


What can you learn about yourself, love and men from the things that drove you two apart, so that you're sure to have a more intimate, loving and evolved relationship next time around?




STEP #2: STOP "LOSING YOURSELF" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS


You probably gave up a lot to be with your ex.


You gave up time with your friends and family.


You gave up doing things you USED to love doing things like reading, exercising, going on spa weekends with your friends, seeing a ballet or opera, visiting art galleries, whatever.


You gave it up in order to spend time with him.


You gave it up to make him feel comfortable.


You gave things up because the RELATIONSHIP seemed important, and you wanted it to work.


Sure, I get it. Many people feel like they need to give things up to keep a partner happy and attracted.